When we think about what makes a relationship good, we tend to think about the big stuff. But there’s one thing that shows up again and again in the relationships people actually feel safest in and closest in.
Read Moreat some point in our life, we have all been told we just need to “put ourselves out there” to get what we want. Friends, dates, even jobs. Even worse, more than once somebody around the crudité tray at the function thinks this is an appropriate pep talk following a break up, big life change, or other transition. Personally, I’ve never felt a lightning bolt of insight come through when someone suggests “putting myself out there”.
This week we explore why this advice rankles and the wisdom of having a plan in place.
Read MoreJuly 4th can be a weird holiday to make conversation about. So, if you’re looking for better questions to ask this July 4th-- whether you’re at a barbecue, on a beach blanket, at a family thing, or trying to make conversation with someone you just met-- here are a few that go a little deeper than “so, any plans this summer?”
Read Moreespecially if we grew raised on a certain sitcom about six friends in a major metropolitan area, it can seem like the group hang is THE ideal - but really, it’s about what we need, from who, and how. so let’s dive in
Read Morewe probably all can think of someone that is just so darn easy to talk to. let’s take a bird’s view of what makes people easy to talk to and how we can practice
Read Moreall alone in the big city? whether it’s first of fiftieth move, our principles for connection can help you make friends and build a well rounded life.
Read Moreyou know those couples and throuples that just emerge from nowhere out of concerts and video game nights? yeah. friendship can really start off those romantic connections - and keeps them durable.
Read Moreguest post from Rhaina Cohen on asking better questions, the vulnerability paradox, and what actually makes people want to befriend — or date — you.
Read Morewe can all end up in conversational and relational auto pilot, but there are some relatively simple tricks to getting out of the rut and into deeper connection
Read Moreover our lifetimes and across our relationships, we play many roles. we explore the strengths, weaknesses, and impacts of caretaker and peacemaker roles on our connections with others
Read MoreSkip the Small Talk’s own Ashley Kirsner sat down with Love Letters podcast to discuss the important of structure and support to make vulnerability possible.
Read Morethe little things in life - and our own tendency to hang back - can make it hard to turn our acquaintances into real friends. but just like growing orchids, we can take the right tools and right conditions, and grow something beautiful.
Read Moreour sense of awkwardness can hold us back from going out to social events on our own. Here are some strategies to try to get yourself out the door
Read MoreIt’s surprisingly hard to meet people in your 20s and 30s—especially if bars aren’t your thing. Here are some options that make it a lot easier.
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